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The answer’s YES…if you’re asking!

So today is finally here, the 29th of February, where we’re reminded of that oh-so- rare opportunity for us girls to pop the question to that special person in our life.

So why is February 29th so significant as the one day, every four years, we’re ‘granted permission’ to propose? According to the history books (also known as google) here is how this tradition started and why:

The tradition dates back hundreds of years, to when the leap year was not recognised by English law; the day was simply “leapt over” and ignored. Since it had no legal status, formal traditions did not apply on this day and consequently, women who were not content to wait for a proposal took advantage of this anomaly and popped the question themselves. It was also thought that since leap year corrected the discrepancy between the calendar year (365 days) and the time it takes for the earth to complete one orbit of the sun (365 days and 6 hours), it was an opportunity for women to correct a tradition that was one-sided and unfair. Go ladies of yore!

Thankfully, rules of courtship are quite different these days and much less strict. When asked, most girls would prefer that the guys go down on a bended knee; mainly because of traditional values and the romanticism of the proposal itself, it would seem…and we wouldn’t want to be associated with ‘nagging him into it’ now, would we?

The proposal of marriage is a tradition that we’ve come to adore and whilst we’re all for equality, there are some traditions that still have their perfect place in modern society. Relationships come in many guises. Couples that have been together forever, have the house, the kids, the dog and the X-box – often the proposal doesn’t even get a look-in. More a conversation that just took place one evening, rather a matter-of-fact “Well, I suppose we could, couldn’t we?”

light-up-marriage-proposal

I know of a gentleman who’d been in a relationship with a lady for a few years and on 29th February, sent her a card in the post saying simply…”The answer is YES…if you’re asking!” They were married later that same year.

So ladies, we’re constantly surrounded by messages of empowerment, equality and if a man can do-it/have-it/want-it…then so can we! and the same can be said of the marriage proposal. In my job, one of the questions I ask brides-to-be at viewings is ‘when did you get engaged?’ (gotta love a love story!) closely followed by ‘was it a complete surprise?’ Quite often the response is an emphatic yes…with the addition of ‘well, we’ve been together for so long, I was kinda hoping it would happen soon’

I guess what I’m trying to say is, if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with – why wait for him to propose? and second to that, certainly don’t wait for this elusive date on the calendar once every four years! Time to turn the tables – how do you think you’d envisage the perfect proposal to your partner? Would it be a conversation that just evolved one day, or a spectacular display of your undying love?

Stopping to consider this for myself, I can only imagine the nerves and anxiety that our male counterparts go through during this highly charged life-changing moment. I’m not sure what my proposal would be like. I’d rather hope that it would be a quiet, gentle affair that allowed me the confidence to go for it, with enough re-assurance that the outcome would be a positive one. No fireworks. No aeroplanes drawing heart-shapes in the sky – just a simple ‘will you?’ Maybe that would be about all I could manage!

Ladies, I wish you the best of luck in all your endeavours…xx

Valentine’s Traditions You’ll Want at Your Wedding

The back story… It’s a day we all know and love, but how St Valentine’s day started is a lesser known tale. Valentine was the hopeless romantic who conducted secret marriage ceremonies when Emperor Claudius II had banned marriage, because he thought married men were bad soldiers. When his secret soft spot for love was discovered, Valentine was sentenced to death, but, as a true romantic would, he fell in love with the jailer’s daughter. On the day of his death (14th February, of course) he sent a love letter, signed ‘from your Valentine’.  Celebrating Valentine’s Day, to honour this lover-of-love is thanks to the church though. It became a Christian festival that actually originates from a Roman festival called Lupercalia. During Lupercalia boys drew names of girls from a box to decide who they would court during the festival and often they’d get married after. The church took on the celebration and tied dear old St Valentine to the festivity, due to his fondness of romance!

Being the day of love, Valentine’s of course comes with some gorgeous traditions that suit the wonderful world of weddings perfectly! So I’ve compiled a little list of love day musts that would make for the sweetest addition to your wedding day…

Love letters
There’s nothing like a beautiful centrepiece at a wedding reception, and if you’re opting for some lovely table number stationery, why not include an old-school love letter. One side is your number and on the back a letter of sweet-nothings for your valentine! Alternatively, a scribble of lover’s words can make for a romantic background behind your bright and beautiful number! PLUS It’s a great theme you can carry through all of your wedding stationery…from the save the dates right through to your thank yous!

Single Red Rose
Nothing says Valentine’s Day like a single red rose, so why not use them as your wedding favour AND escort card. I love a gift for those guests you hold so dear, and wedding favours can be practical too when you let them replace the traditional table plan and become escort cards. A red rose with a little note attached telling your guest which table is theirs – romantic and practical too!

Rosewater
There is an old Valentine’s tradition that involves sprinkling rose water and bay leaves on your pillow and wishing for Valentine to let your love ‘see’ you, and we can’t think of a better way to include humble rose water in your wedding than in an array of delicious cocktails! Pairing perfectly with gin, vodka or champagne to name a few, rose water is a delicate flavour reminiscent of a loving tradition, that will work perfectly at any reception!

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